When asking someone to be your mentor, it’s important to recognize that you are asking them for a favor, one that will require time and energy on their part. The clearer you can be about your purpose for the mentoring relationship, the better the other person will understand your request and how they might be able to help you. Before reaching out with your request, identify your specific development goals and the role that you would like the mentor to play in your career. It is also important to demonstrate your commitment to the relationship and how you plan to make the most of the other person’s time.

If possible, ask for a face-to-face meeting or phone call to discuss your request. A conversation will allow you a chance to respond to questions. However if email is your only option, make sure that your message clearing describes that guidance that you are seeking in a professional, friendly tone. For example:

Dear (Name),

I enjoyed our previous conversations about your career path. Learning about how you transitioned into your current role has provided me with a lot of insight. I would like to ask you a favor based on my respect for the way you have managed your career. Would you consider serving as my mentor as I work to develop my management skills to possibly move into a people leader role?

I was hoping that we could meet for a monthly coffee meeting to discuss your counsel regarding areas that I should address in my career. I would plan a short agenda with specific topics to discuss for our meetings and complete any action items and report back on my progress.

Thank you for considering this request. I know that your time is valuable, so if this type of commitment will not work with your current schedule I understand.

Sincerely,

(Your Name)